1. Do you believe you have a right to make most of the decisions in the relationship?

2. Do you insist that your partner do as you say?

3. Do you perceive yourself as being superior to or “better than” your partner (e.g., smarter, more competent, more powerful)? Do you feel you have a right to special treatment or consideration in the relationship because of this?

4. Do you secretly disrespect or even despise your partner because you feel she is weak, inadequate, stupid, or a pushover?

5. Did you deliberately get involved with a partner who would allow you to maintain the dominant role in the relationship?

6. Do you give your partner the silent treatment or withhold approval, affection, sex or money when he or she doesn’t do as you wish?

7. Do you threaten to leave the house or to end the relationship whenever you don’t get your way?

8. Have you insisted that your partner drop all or most of her friends and outside activities?

10. Have you ever denied doing or saying something just to make your partner doubt her observations or sanity?

11. Do you believe your partner should be willing to have sex with you whenever you are in the mood and that she should be willing to engage in any sexual activity you are interested in exploring?

12. Have you ever threatened to find someone who would have sex with you or who would engage in the sexual activities you want to engage in if your partner doesn’t comply?

13 Do you believe your partner should want to spend all her free time with you, and when she doesn’t, do you accuse her of being unloving or failing as a partner?

14. Do you telephone your partner at work or at home and If your partner isn’t available to talk to you, do you become enraged?

16. Do you question your partner incessantly about her activities when you are apart? Do you want her to account for every minute of her day?

17. Do you insist on being in control of the money in the relationship? Do you insist that your partner ask your permission before spending any money, or have you imposed a budget or an allowance on him? Do you require your partner to account for every penny she spends?

18. Have you or your family demanded gifts, cash from your brides family , and/or humiliated her for not giving enough gifts

18. Have you ever threatened to hurt your partner? Have you ever threatened to hurt your partner’s children, family or friends?

20. Have you ever thrown or broken objects while in a rage at your partner or in an attempt to scare her? Have you ever refused to let your partner leave a room or your home? Have you ever pushed or shoved your partner?

If you answered yes to even one of these questions, it means that you have been emotionally abusive of your partner. Please seek help before it is too late . It will increase own self-respect.

Visit your GP . The first step is – It needs total honesty within oneself and with your doctor

Enrol for Men’s Behaviour Change Program. Ring Men’s Referral Service

If you would like us to run Prevention of Family Violence Workshops Please contact: info@achrh.org

Here are other numbers to call for information and assistance

  • 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) National Sexual Assault, Family & Domestic Violence Counseling Line for any Australian who has experienced, or is at risk of, family and domestic violence and/or sexual assault.

  • 131 114 Lifeline has a national number who can help put you in contact with a crisis service in your State (24 hours)

  • Police or Ambulance
    000 in an emergency for police or ambulance.

  • Men’s Referral Service for Australia- 1300 766 491